The Power of NO!

Dream Chasers…Dream Chasing…

You’ll read that numerous times because I mention these phrases quite often and you’ll find out what it means to me. What do dreams mean to you? Well from my previous post you’ll know what dreams mean to me, they mean EVERYTHING! I am a true dreamer, I especially love to drift off into space and day-dream about my future! My Mom could tell you that I am always thinking 10 steps ahead and need to slow down and enjoy the now, which has been hard for me. Being the protector and in survival mode since my Daddy passed, led me to put myself on the back burner and I had become complacent in life. When I finally decided to pursue my dream it felt like a weight lifted off my shoulders. A lot of dreaming and planning went into this process which I’ll discuss in a near future blog, but this has been the most exhilarating roller coaster ride thus far! I have done things in the past few months that still even shock me! All for the almighty dream of happiness and joy!

Part of my dream cost money of course, and since I can’t take my whole wardrobe with me, I decided to sell most of it! Getting ready for this yard sale had me thinking about how materialistic I had become over the years. Eminem’s song “Cleanin’ Out My Closet” kept playing in my head as I just laughed at myself. Look how far I’ve come…just to chase my dream! Nothing and no one could tell me I cannot do something, because my thirst and desire for this trip is more than someone telling me no. Don’t let anyone tell you that you cannot do something! I remember a story my Dad told me about not making the varsity basketball team, because a coach told him his grip and shooting skills were no good. All summer long he worked on his technique, took constructive criticism and stepped his game up to get on varsity the next winter. My Dad was a firm believer that your words either would uplift you or defeat you, he would put affirmations all around the house. Some said, “You are Above and not Beneath, You are a Conqueror and not Defeated”…I took it upon myself to make my own affirmation back in April, and it read: “You WILL travel the world and see new things! You WILL pursue and chase your dream! You DESERVE to have your dreams come true! NOBODY CAN STOP ME!”. Reading this daily helped boost my confidence, not only in my dream but in myself.

Let me tell you what the power of NO can do to a determined person…I remember sitting in one of my performance reviews and my District Manager told me I would fail if he gave me a promotion at the time. I was stunned and furious at the same time, but I just smiled and nodded my head. Human Resources is one of my passions and no one was going to tell me that I couldn’t do it, and I didn’t really want to deal with the politics. Even my brand new illustrious Masters degree would not help me get promoted, I had grown complacent and did not even realize it! So naturally I looked elsewhere, and the interview process was lengthy but I was breezing by until the last interview…corporate said I didn’t have enough HR experience. The HR manager had to politely tell me how sorry she was but could not extend an offer, as much as she wanted to! After I talked to that HR manager I cried like a baby, right in Smokey Bones restaurant and all over my ribs lol…after two days of feeling bad for myself something woke up inside of me, a dream that I had pushed to the side a long time ago. I decided right then I would stop crying and actually do something for ME, accomplish my long-lost dream and hopefully fulfill a deep desire within my heart.

All dreams are different and no one dream is too small or too big, just taking the first step is the hard part! Thankfully I had been saving for a world trip, but maybe you are in the first stages of saving for something big and that is alright! Just get out there and chase your dreams! Do not let those dream crushers I talked about previously slow your roll, trust me they might even be very close to you! Just keep it moving…they are not going anywhere in life anyways. I don’t care how young or old you may be, if you are not chasing a dream, then what are you doing with your life? It’s fine to live, laugh, and love, just start TODAY! And remember that you are more powerful than someone’s no!

3 Responses

  1. Troy Thompson

    Great motivation to me and the rest of us dream-chasers. I was right there through most of it and that’s exactly how u felt. You didn’t continue to be negative are down in the dumps, no decided to chase the dreams you always had. So if u have a significant other or family member or friend don’t discourage them encourage them and go along for the ride.D o you think I want to be the guy at the movies by himself for eight months no lol. But, I don’t hate I congratulate and chase the dreams along with Ashley and support it all. This time will make both of us stronger. So don’t be negative or a dream crusher be a dream chaser and go for it.

  2. Amen! The Power of NO just adds more fuel to your fire of your personal goals! That’s what I’ve learned this year…..As Mary Mary said “Go get your Blessing!!! 🙂

  3. Inspiring as always! You are amazing! I do believe that you need to write a book when you return from your travels ! Miss you a lot, but I am so excited for you ! I will be praying for you as you travel ! God Bless ,Proverbs 3:5,6

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